Massive Wall-o-Text incoming (sorry):
I also used to be a devout Christian. I have since looked closer at what it is I truly believe, and I now label myself Agnostic. One of the many, many reasons I left the Church was the idea that we were expected to force everyone to believe the same as we did. It was preached in my church again and again that anyone who did not believe the same as us, even other religions that weren't exactly the same as us, were all going to hell.
Some examples of the preaching we were expected to do: Some families in the church were expected to go preaching door-to-door. A girl a little younger than me who had gone with her mother to go preaching was morbidly embarrassed when a woman wearing nothing but a bath towel opened the door, with soap in her hair. She'd obviously gotten out of the shower to answer the door, was probably expecting someone else. It was very clear that she was very busy. Instead of leaving, since the woman was busy, the girl's mother forced her to stand there and preach at this woman. Do I think the woman was smart for opening the door to someone she didn't know wearing nothing but a bath towel? Absolutely not, what a moron. But was it in any way appropriate for the mother and girl to keep her there to preach at her when she was clearly busy? No. I'd be willing to bet that if the woman had wanted to know more about God or the church, she would have shown up at the church at a time that was convenient for her.
I was given pamphlets at church and told to leave them around my school.
Whenever someone would object to getting preached at, the church would declare that God had BIG plans for that person and that Satan was trying to keep the church away from him/her, so they would go after him/her even more. Honestly. Instead of thinking 'oh, this person isn't interested and wants us to leave them alone, in fact I think we annoy them so let's back off,' they would harass that person MORE for objecting. It was frankly embarrassing.
Here's basic tips that might help the two sides get along:
Do not try to force others to believe the same as you. It's wonderful that Christians have a belief system that makes them happy. They need to understand that not everyone needs such a system, even though yes, their Bible tells them that all people do need it. Please, we've all read the Bible, and at this point it's up to us to decide what we need. In the same way, Atheists should not pick fights with Christians nor try to convert them, either.
Do not leave pamphlets around. It's a cheap shot, not allowing a person to tell you 'no thanks' but instead acting passive-aggressive by leaving bits of paper around. You cannot debate with pamphlets, pamphlets don't listen when you say no thank you, and most of them go straight into the nearest trash can and end up as little more than a waste of paper.
Agree to disagree and move on.
If a Christian would like to convert someone to their beliefs, they should first act like there's a reason to convert. Christian women in my old church were the most gossipy, catty, bitchy people I'd ever met. What incentive does that give people to listen to them? None. Kids in my youth group were the ones at school smoking, drinking, and having sex behind their parents' backs. Great example, lots of reason to want to be just like them. NOT. After you convince someone
by example that your way is nicer than theirs, then you can ask if they want to hear about it. If they say no, that means NO. If they say yes, than chatter to your little heart's content.
I find it very easy to get along with just about everyone, simply by truly agreeing to disagree. For example: Am I homosexual? No. Is one of my best friends from high school homosexual? Yes. Is her homosexuality hurting me in any way? No. Then do I give a rip roaring hoot? No. Do I think she should be allowed to love whoever she wishes? Yes! Now try the same thing with religion. Am I religious? No. Do I have friends and family that are religious? Yes. Do either of us try to convert the other? No. We respect each other. For example, I never ask a Christian friend to hang out on Sunday morning because I respect their decision to be in church at that time. And my Christian friends, in turn, do not try to badger me into going to church with them. It works really well. Truly, it does.